Focusing on the transformative complements

The other day I watched Dr Lissa Rankin’s talk on TEDx. She said the statement below and questioned us how do we think about it?

The caring for your body was the least important part of your health.”

Based on her research and experiences in practice, she brought in the term of “the Whole Health Medicine” (this is her website) and created a wellness model (see a diagram below). It indicates that our health symptoms are often shown on our feelings of our bodies, where we thought we have problems on, however these are the mirrors of our mind and our life surroundings. One of her suggestions is to switch from focusing on battling nuisance symptoms that decrease our quality of life to seeking and enhancing our own transformative complements such as love, pleasure, gratitude and service.

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In Chinese, we often say “境由心转,相由心生“, which means that our perceptions of the world will change with the changes of our mind; whereas our outward appearance mirrors our heart. When I was a kid, to stop me being cheated by strangers, my grandparents told me that if I feel a stranger is not kind and nice though they may smile and try to be friendly, very likely they are not truly kind because their face and behaviors tell. I wouldn’t say this 100% works, but it has its reasons.

Another example is that we all heard something like “the first three minutes of a job interview are the most critical”, or “first impressions are more heavily influenced by nonverbal cues than verbal cues”.  Spontaneously when we present who we are – the best being of ourselves, we are giving people an impressive first impression. However, this spontaneous look is not pretended. It has been molded on our bodies by our mind in every day life. (N.B. here I am not saying we don’t prepare interview and don’t learn the interaction skills)

So we are shaped by our thoughts. It’s all mirrored on our body including our faces, eyes, smile, voice, etc. To care our own health, read Dr Lissa Rankin’s advice and see if it works for you.

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What are your rules of life?

It took me 4 months to finish reading the book The Rules of Life. This is because firstly I don’t like to be ruled by the book or the author’s suggestions. I wanted to discover if I have already applied some rules. Secondly, I’d like to see how much I remember if I don’t touch the book for a while.

There are many of the rules in the book that I would call habits or attitudes. They are in the person’s personality and beliefs that present who they are. We all more or less have them but we may be not aware of them.

The rules I like in particular are:

  • 2. You’ll get older but not necessarily wiser
  • 7. Be flexible in your thinking
  • 10. Only dead fish swim with the stream
  • 13. No fear, no surprise, no hesitation, no doubt
  • 49. Only the good feel guilty
  • 58. Know when to listen and when to act
  • 61. Keep talking
  • 69. Let your kids mess up for themselves – they don’t need any help from you
  • 73. There are no bad children
  • 95. Be part of the solution, not the problem

A few quotes I like:

Plans have to be realistic; dreams don’t. (p.38)

Live here, live now, live in this moment. (p.41)

If it’s dead, don’t go digging it up every five minutes to check if there’s a pulse. It’s dead; walk away. (p.74)

Peace is what we always need

Peace is what we always need, seek and safeguard.

In the evening, I watched the video of the China military parade that commemorates the 70th year of the World War II victory.

As a Chinese, I felt very proud. I sang with them…

From 1931 to 1945, my grandparents experienced the worst 14 years in their life. They didn’t like to talk about the hard time, but when I heard they talked sometimes, there were fragments of adventure stories for me, horrifying, frightening, dreadful, hair-raising, and incredible. I drew those worst human pictures and best human figures in my head. I felt I was so lucky that I was not born over that time. I thank the brave old generations very much.

Yes, we pursue peace and freedom.

Keep a positive attitude

I came across this post about the beauty of mathematics. I like the magic of numbers in mathematics even though I am not very good at it.

The post mentioned the mathematical equations, which I learnt ten years ago. I love it and have had the quote on my office wall since. I have made my own version of it to remind me better. It’s worthwhile to share it again.

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Read the quotes and change attitudes

Voice of Heart is a nice blog that collects beautiful quotes about life and love. Sometimes I feel a low mood, I go to the site and read some of the quotes. It brightens my way…

I like to read some of the quotes from tiny buddha. We all know, we all know, but sometimes we need the simple wise words to remind us again, to help us to see things in a positive way, and to make our mind in peace…

I also like to see some of the quotes on Motivational Quotes. Some are funny images, some are beautiful words.