睡觉前, 我是不应该看这么感人的小说的, 特别是关于死亡.
I know it’s not a good idea to read such a touching book before go to sleep, especially it’s about death and life.
A lot of time, we see nice people left us in a young age, but those bad souls live well.
几年前无意看到了Professor Randy Pausch 的一系列讲座.他得了胰腺癌,还很年轻.当看到一个人面对死亡,从鲜活到远去,很长时间心情都不能平静.
A few years ago, I watched Professor Randy Pausch‘s presentations and read his book. I felt sorry for his loss though I don’t know him at all.
最近又无意看到了Mitch Albom 的书«Tuesdays with Morrie»,讲述Professor Morrie Schwartz得知自己得了肌萎缩侧索硬化症后的故事(Profeesor Stephen William Hawking 就是得了这种病) .
Recently, I came across Mitch Albom’s book Tuesdays with Morries. It tells a story of Professor Morrie Schwartz’s last 14 weeks.
Mitch is like us, and Morrie is like someone close to us.
It’s an inspiration book. I put some nice quotes below.
14 Tuesdays, 14 lessons about life.
Learn how to give out love, and to let it come in. Love is the only rational act.
I give myself a good cry if I need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life.
The culture doesn’t encourage you to think about such things until you’re about to die.
Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.
This is part of what a family is about, not just love, but letting others know there’s someone who is watching out from them.
Detaching yourself from the experience.
If you’ve found meaning in your life, you don’t want to go back. You want to go forward. You want to see more, do more.
Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between people… Giving to other people is what makes me feel alive. Not my car or my house.
Love is when you are as concerned about someone else’s situation as you are about your own.
第十个星期二,关于婚姻.婚姻没有一个简单的规则. 婚姻中需要尊重, 折衷, 敞开心菲交流和类似的价值观.
They don’t know what they want in partner. They don’t know who they are themselves – so how can they know who they’re marrying?
We need others as well.
Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Don’t wait.
How could he find perfection in such an average day?
Death ends a life, not a relationship.
再摘抄几段吧 (More wonderful quotes):
The culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. And you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn’t work, don’t buy it.
So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.
Everyone knows they’re going to die… but nobody believes it. If we did, we would do things differently… To know you’re going to die, and to be prepared for it at any time. That’s better. That way you can actually be more involved in your life while you’re living.
If you want the experience of having complete responsibility for another human being, and to learn how to love and bond in the deepest way, then you should have children.
There are a few rules I know to be true about love and marriage: If you don’t respect the other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don’t know how to compromise, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can’t talk openly about what goes on between you, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike.
When you get threatened, you start looking out only for yourself. You start making money a god. It is all part of this culture.
The little thing, what we value – those you must choose yourself. You can’t let anyone – or any society – determine those for you.
Look, no matter where you live, the biggest defect we human beings have is our shortsightedness. We don’t see what we could be. We should be looking at our potential, stretching ourselves into everything we can become. There is no such thing as “too late” in life.