There is an old Chinese saying “The rivers and mountains may change, but not one’s essential nature” . It means sometimes it’s hard to change ourselves.
Today I read the book I’m Ok – You’re OK written by Thomas A. Harris M.D. On page 58, it listed three cases that people will want to change themselves.
What makes people want to change?
Three things make people want to change. One is that they hurt sufficiently. They have beaten their heads against the same wall so long that they decide they have had enough. … Another thing that makes people want to change is a slow type of depaire called ennui, or boredom. … A third thing that makes people want to change is the sudden discovery that they can.